A good friend I worked with 25 years ago once gave me the best advice about a job. She said roughly, that a job was a source of income to pay for the bills you have now and to save for your retirement. That if I found myself doing what I loved to do and it filled my passion, then I was a very fortunate person. It reminded me that being happy was just a bonus I could hope for if lucky.
Many of you may argue that finding your passion is the first goal, and seeking out that job is the second goal. Yet I realized that day I was finally in a job that made me happy. I had given up a career in retail banking for a career in learning development. I spent 30 years in that field and left after it was no longer fun. I had only been doing this job for a couple of years, and I didn’t recognize all that was part of being happy.
While the actual work became more of a challenge, that only kept me more engaged. But when my manager and mentor left and I began reporting to a real piece of work that was clueless about training, my little world of happiness took a quick dive. The location of my office was changed to a new downtown address with a lengthy and dismal commute. And did I mention to save money this manager had us cubicle sharing? Two days a week it was crowded!
Then one day, I got a new manager that was brilliant in instructional design, performance consulting and wanted me to learn what she knew so well. I had a Servant Leader again for a manager, and a new mentor. We had home offices setup, so no commute and I only shared my space with the cats. Life was actually quite happy for the next 6 years until I chose to leave for a new company and new challenges.
But with that new company, all the money and benefits, great office I also landed one of the most Self-Serving Leaders I’ve ever worked for. He was great when things were going well, and a real monster that liked ripping people apart. While I built up an awesome team of people, everything was fine if I blocked my staff from the top floor chaos. When I had finally had enough I left, and the flood gates were let loose on my team.
I became an independent consultant, and have never worked for another manager since. Instead I am the mentor to many paying forward the good fortune I received. I am happy again. What kept me from my happiness in the field of my greatest passion was poor leadership. So few companies bother to find out why people leave. They just process the paperwork and look for a replacement. All of these terrible managers have done quite well for themselves, and my faith has allowed me to forgive them and move on.
Bottom line though is I have worked to earn money to pay my bills and save for retirement. I have also been happy a good percentage of the time, so I guess I have been fortunate too!